QUEER EYE or NORMAL EYE

Queer Eye

"whether you are a man or a woman, unless the feminine becomes alive in you, you will never experience the finer aspects of life" - Sadhguru

I may be late to the party since the show is currently in its 4th season. But better late than never. I only started watching it last month but, truth is told, I love the show. and all five men.: Tan France, Kuramo Brown, BobbyBerk, AntonioPorowski, and last but not least, the fabulous "gymnast" Jonathan Van Ness.

These men encourage strangers to transform their lives often in a rut and steer them in a positive direction. Giving them advice on living their best life. They are taught how to eat better, groom themselves in an attractive way and manage their emotions and mental state in a healthy way. And overall take better care of themselves.

I love how these five men, whom the world has labeled "Queer" approach their tasks in a playful manner, and are not afraid to hold hands, touch each other and bring energy on the screen which is often not seen with men. An energy that is human and endearing. Men are generally taught to be silent and stoic about their emotions. Conditioned to keep it all locked in and in check or else, you are not considered "Man enough" Toxic masculinity is what I call it. Therefore many men grow up being emotionally stunted.

And their best way of showing emotions is sometimes "beating the crap" out of each other or starting a war. Having learned from a young age that being aggressive to each other is the best way to show masculinity. Be Macho and a man's man!

From a young age, boys learn these behaviors and are often bullied, and made fun of if they showed too much physical display of affection. From age 5 or 6, your little boy stops wanting to be kissed when you drop him off at school. because his peers are watching and may make fun of him. And many do not want to be called "mama's boy".

But our boys need hugs and kisses no matter how old they are, as it helps them connect with their emotions. It makes them better humans, boyfriends, lovers, husbands, and fathers. Men should not be afraid of showing their emotions. and be encouraged to do so. They should know it is perfectly okay to cry out, shed real tears, and sob uncontrollably when they hurt. It is healthy for psychological wellbeing. Their mental health will be better for it. So, when I see the Fab5 of "Queer Eye" on Netflix being playful with each other. The woman and mother in me, lepas for joy.

I have kissed many princes and some frogs and I could always tell the ones who got a lot of hugs growing up. By the way, they treated me. They were never afraid to show their vulnerability and tap into their feminine side. I have also found out, that the ones who acted so macho, needed the most help psychologically. They were not authentic. They often masked their fragile emotions with a "pretend" tough exterior.