What Women Want: Fifty Shades of Grey?

The popularity of Fifty Shades of Grey clearly shows women are yearning for more excitement in the bedroom. 

Maybe the age-old excuse of feigning a headache, to avoid sex,  is really their way of saying "enough with the mind-numbing boring sex" -

- Ngozichi Omekara

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I just finished reading the "Fifty Shades Trilogy" and I absolutely enjoyed it.  As a   romance fiction aficionado, since my teens, nothing prepared me for this one. The Mills and Boon, Silhouette romance series,  pale compared to this.  Fifty Shades of Grey is  aptly classified as "Erotic Romance"

I guess, this is the 21st century and everything is different.  These are the times, when a fourteen-year-old,  knows and does stuff, I  did not know about until I was twenty-one.

E. L. James’s blockbuster Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy has sold over 50 million copies in six weeks. If you don’t work in publishing, this would be the equivalent of The Avengers and Avatar combined. With way more genitals.

As I speak,  the numbers keep rising. So why are many women snapping this book, off the shelves and grinning like Cheshire cats as they read?
Some have christened it  "Mommy Porn" maybe because, it is most popular,  among women 30 years and over the married/mothers group.
Well, it does focus on a subject dear to our hearts, no matter how much we pretend. Sex is a natural,  normal body function. An integral part of any successful romantic relationship
A subject that is still taboo in many cultures usually talked about in hush-hush tones, and often behind closed doors.

My mother will cringe in embarrassment, if she reads this article, although I am a  mother, and my son was not by virgin birth!
 

They say a girl never forgets her first love, but you should also add "A girl never forgets, the man who gives her the first orgasm. nor the man who makes the effort, to take her to nirvana most of the time"  as she counts her lucky stars, crowning his love King.  

You do know there are many women, who have never experienced Orgasm and have resigned themselves to fate.
This is where Christian Grey is every woman's dream. He is not only rich and handsome but a Sexpert.
Statistics show that many marriages are sexless, or have boring encounters between the sheets.

Married couples say they have sex an average of 68.5 times a year. That's slightly more than once a week. — Newsweek

Married people have 6.9 more sexual encounters per year than people who have never been married. — Newsweek

15 to 20 percent of couples have sex no more than 10 times a year, which experts define as a sexless marriage. — Newsweek

20 to 30 percent of men and 30 to 50 percent of women say they have little or no sex drive. — USA Today

25 percent of all Americans (a third of women and a fifth of men) suffer from a condition known as hypoactive sexual desire (HSD), which is defined as a persistent or recurring deficiency or absence of sexual fantasies or thoughts, or a lack of interest in sex or being sexual. — Psychology Today

Many women complain about lackluster sex in their marriages. Ironically they often only talk to their girlfriends about this, keeping their partners in the dark.

One would wonder, why the active participant is often the last to know.
 It goes back to culture and how girls are raised. Women worry about bruising the male ego, especially when it comes to the matter of  the "dance with no pants"

This has been since the Victorian era. when doctors diagnosed many women with  "Female hysteria" (which in my opinion was sexually unsatisfied women) and the treatment then was, the use of Vibrators (yes! the Sex toy).

Women were treated, for a wide variety of illnesses by performing what is now recognized as masturbation. The "pelvic massage" was the point of such manipulation to cause a "hysterical paroxysm" (orgasm) in the patient. 

 However, not only did they regard the "valvular stimulation" required as having nothing to do with sex, but reportedly found it time-consuming and hard.
Between 1835 and 1920, Gustav Zander also designed a device that was often used to attain orgasm, although it was primarily designed as an aid against eating disorders. It is still on display in the Museum Boerhaave in Leiden

It would appear that what women in the Victorian era really suffered from, was  mind-numbing boring sex or sexless marriages
I have girlfriends confide in me on how boring sex was in their marriages. 

Most open up, only after the divorce (they now form the sisterhood of orgasm seekers)
Perhaps if it had been sooner, another marriage would have avoided the divorce statistics. 
Many little girls are raised to believe that sex is a bad thing and discouraged from exploring their sexuality.

So E L James is, doing All marriages out there a favor by bringing this subject to the front news. 
While Fifty Shades focuses more on BDSM ( The term BDSM was coined as a condensed acronym in the 1990s to combine communities and practices that had a significant amount of crossover – bondage and discipline (B&D or B/D), dominance and submission  (D&S or D/s), and sadomasochism or sadism and masochism (S&M or S/M).
Or Kinky fuckery, as opposed to "Vanilla Sex" which most of us know and indulge in.

Christian Grey, the main character in the book, declared he did not do "Hearts and Flowers" (which is also what most women want) He did become a convert in the end.

 Although many women, may not really want to go, the whole route of  BDSM. The fact is many women, would love things spiced up in the bedroom.

I think that is why "Fifty Shades Trilogy" is so popular. Christian Grey was always coming up with new ways and ideas to make sex real fun!

Like he often said "We Aim to Please,"   I think, i speak for my sisters and me when I say, that is really what women want. A man who aims to please.

Although the news focuses on the "Kinky fuckery" in the book. I think the book is well written, there is a lot of music and art appreciation.

In the end, the book ended like all the romance books, I have read, Christian Grey and Anastasia Steele get married, have children, and live happily ever after.

Which is what most women want. Giving the book four stars in my review.